With Internationally Acclaimed Parenting Expert
Descriptive Praise: The #1 Motivator for Children
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On this CD, you’ll learn:
- A more effective way to praise your child to get more of the behavior you want and less of the annoying or worrying behavior
- How using Descriptive Praise will increase your child’s confidence and self-reliance
- How you can improve all areas of family life, from morning routines to homework to sibling rivalry to bedtimes
- Bonus: Q&A with Noël and success stories from parents
Approximate running time: 60 minutes
My wife and I are proud but struggling members of the increasingly populated parentally-challenged movement. But ever since we first listened to the Calmer, Happier, Parenting CDs and followed that up with attending one of Noel's seminars here in Los Angeles, we've found parenting our two children a much, well, calmer and happier experience. Frankly, it's helped our entire marriage as well. Just last night, our 4-year-old daughter, Tess, was squawking* away in her bed (* squawking here is defined as crying, whining, yelling, basically doing anything to keep herself awake) long after she and her brother were supposed to be asleep. They share a bunk bed, so this phenomenon can keep them both awake and produce not one but two cranky kids the following day. Normally what happens is that I go up and deliver a stern reminder that she's expected to be quiet, which sometimes, at best, has the effect of reducing her squawks to a low whimper. Then when the whimper begins inevitably to grow in intensity, my wife will go up and lay in bed with her, which while it does have the desired effect of calming her down, also just as effectively brings our night together to a definitive end. But last night, I remembered a tip from Noël's 'Descriptive Praise' cd which turned out to make all the difference. Instead of delivering the well-intended but ultimately futile stern reminder, I kneeled down next to my daughter, waited for her 'squawks' to subside, then praised her for how calm and quiet she was able to be -- even if those calm, quiet moments lasted only a few seconds. Actually, I wasn't praising so much as just noticing, which of course is a major element of descriptive praise. Pretty soon, I was noticing that Tess' quieter moments were lasting longer than her... louder moments. And it was not long after that she was able to slowly and peacefully let herself drift off to sleep. Mission accomplished: two kids down, two parents still up, and all without the sturm and drang normally associated with our nighttime 'challenges'. On behalf of all of us here in the quieter Davis home, many thanks again to Noël and her Calmer, Happier Approach!
The CDs are the perfect parenting coach supplement for moms on the go. I listen to them in the car and they really help to remind me of the techniques that work. In particular, the Preparing for Success CD guides me through tips on how to make a successful transition from work to home and motivates me to be a better parent by not rushing the kids into their evening chores.
I’ve always thought of myself an empathetic mother, but listening to the Reflective Listening CD has given me better strategies to shorten the duration of almost any kind of strong feeling my child is having. Now when my son is acting out because of frustration or anger, I’ve learned to respond in a constructive way so that he truly feels like I’m on his side, and it keeps his emotions from escalating. I am more in control with these great tools.
This is a CD that truly lives up to its name. When I follow the easy to use steps in the Never Ask Twice CD, my children magically do what I’ve asked them to do right away. What a respectful, positive and powerful way to get kids to cooperate.
About two months ago my 3 year old daughter and I had a particularly tough afternoon. She was trying to give up her afternoon nap, and I was desperately trying to hold on to it. I was at the end of my rope. Then I remembered the Rewards & Consequences CD, listened to it while my daughter rampaged in her room and ultimately gained her happy cooperation. Thank you, Noel!